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The Best of The Week

Approximately one year ago, I realized but did not fully comprehend what I meant at the time, nor the ongoing and everchanging behaviours, and more importantly how living with a spouse with Alzheimer's would affect not only him, myself, and our relationship, but our entire extended and blended family.

When I chose to write about our ups and downs, I did so with caution and my husband's knowledge, at the time. Although I still don't include every single detail, out of deference to his dignity; HE NO LONGER CARES OR COMPREHENDS. In rare moments, I read to him what I've written and his response is fleeting. ("Does this help other people understand?")

Helping other people was always a value we shared...until he rapidly entered the world of Alzheimer's, which is now more awful and less of a wonderland. But it's our life and we do the best we can. This week I was assaulted by condescending and "what I've read about...." texts from…

They wheel him into the operating room at a quarter past one. He is pushing fifty - grey streaks in his hair turn white every day.

"Relax", he hears her say, as if from a great distance. "This is a routine procedure."

Her voice is clinical - bored and apathetic. He wonders if she cares whether he lives or dies.

He wants very badly for someone to care, as she steps towards him, needle in hand. He would give them everything he has.

But all he has is a broken…

I am compelled to support same-sex marriage.  I am firmly against any religious argument denying gays state and federally recognized marriage because certain religions can’t conscionably ordain or recognize such unions.  (I don’t have time to go into it here, but I am also against any anti-same-sex marriage argument that one believes to be non-religious.  I believe that all such arguments are, indeed, foundationally religious even when presented otherwise.)

I am…