The In Crowd

In my experience, members of this group are easily identified. Male members of this group tend to be jocks or the people extremely conscious of the current trend. Female members of this group are generally good-looking, gregarious and flirty. Also, to be a member of this social class, you must "hang out" with your "friends" and act "cool" a lot.

These people tend to be very shallow in judgement of other people. Most of them are popularity hounds and will stop at nothing to increase their levels of popularity. Social acceptance is of the utmost importance to these people. They also tend to be very easily affected by peer pressure. This social class is the group most responsible for the phenomenon middle school and high school social oppression.

As one passes high school and go on to college, this social class almost ceases to exist. Isn't that strange?

Then again, I went to a school (Boston College) without that pathetic, asinine archaic Greek system, so maybe things are different where they pledge.

If anything, they amuse me. Tell me you didn't walk around Boston College laughing inside at how pathetic these people were? Like the kid that still wore his varsity wrestling jacket up until senior year? That was just funny.

Maybe this drive to be recognized caused you to pick up a bunch of cool hobbies, or strive for academic excellence. Maybe it became a driving force behind motivating you to do the things that got you where you are today.

Many of the people in the "in" crowd when I was in high school are still where I left them some 8 years ago. Some of them have kids and are married to each other. Some of them have little companies that they started while attending night school to get their MBA. Some of them are still living with their parents.

In general, though, the good times in their lives peaked in high school.

You shouldn't hate them or continue to exhibit frustration. Don't be bitter. In some ways, you should be happy that maybe your life won't peak in high school, but continue to have ups and downs for a long time. And remember that if they weren't who they were in high school, then you wouldn't be who you are now. It's not some ying-yang thing--you should recognize that their actions directly affected you and made you who you are today.

Personally, I feel bad for a lot of them. Their parents pushed them into football and cheerleading and such activities and impressed upon them the need to be popular and liked. Possibly continuing the cycle.