I agree with much of hardcorekitty
's (no longer extant) write-up. (Thanks go to SpiffyBalak
for pointing out that the original text can be found, duly credited to Carolyn Tiger
, at http://www.generationj.com/issues/jan_1/fem_porn.html )
I feel, however, there's a slight
bit of stereotyping when she writes:
What's different about our porn? It's easily accessible. Physically it is less graphic and never bizarre. Even the most detailed sex in "sensual novels" is couched in narrative and preceded by long courtships (read: pages and pages of building tension). In women's magazines it is more often biological than scatological or with farm animals. Fem-porn is never rough and never with a stranger.
Generally speaking, this is a very accurate description. What is fascinating, however, are the many romance novels and other forms of "women's porn
" that include scenes that verge on rape
and other bizarre behavior
. In some cases, bizarre sexuality is forced on the heroine by a man or captor who must be overcome by the romantic hero in his quest for his one true love. But in some cases, there is an edge of sadism
to the primary relationship itself; but, at least in the romance novels I've read, this is always framed in a way that somehow "excuses" the hero's rogueish behavior
, and ends with the hero
on the verge of domestication
, nearly tamed
(but not too
tame, God forbid), or at the very least he is mellowed by the evidence he now holds of the deep love and affection that the heroine feels for him. It's hard to say what this means, but my inner cynic says that this is a clever way of having your cake and eating it too
There is one webpage I've come across that catalogues some of the kinkier exceptions to the "soft focus" rule, and if it's still online and I can find it, I hope to add a reference.
In the meanwhile, there's this:
"Looking. Historically, it was Tom peeking at Lady Godiva, birthing the sexually voyeuristic "Peeping Tom." Today, it's more complicated. Psychiatrist Danielle Knafo believes the artist deals with "primal scene experiences and fantasies by taking control of a situation in which they were once passive." She defines "primal scene" as the child voyeur wishing to observe parents copulating.
Certainly, some sort of sexuality, which can be understood as power (or power understood as sexuality) always lingers in "looking", even if repressed or concealed. Once beyond a Freudian glossary, however, voyeurism scrambles for definition. Its inevitability in our everyday lives seems beyond the litany of social sciences and such issues as pornography...."
from Grace Roselli
& Barbara Rusin
http://www.plexus.org/newobs/112/intro112.html (Dec. 2, 2000)
P.S. (Response to Mr. Option's w/u: I would certainly echo virtually all of what you say about the disquieting nature of male-oriented porn. Perhaps what disturbs me most about it is how it neither reflects the realities of women's nor men's sexual experiences, but seems to exist as a sort of stumbling block for males trying to escape perpetual adolescence.)