It is the coming
home that makes me want to leave.
I don’t know how my
father draws me into these things. He doesn’t even realize how
angry I am. I look at him sometimes and see the blankness in his stare
as I rage quietly
from across a room. He has no idea. Since he yells at everyone with
impunity and with
no real rationale, I suppose he thinks I do the same. But when I rage, when I lift my voice
like
that, it is important. It is me
exploding, and when it is me exploding near
him, it is usually me exploding into painful,
shattering pieces.
Now nearly
anything draws me into this game again and again and again.
Now, because there’s no reason left
why I can’t leave.
Well, there’s
a reason.
My mother. My mother of course, who looks at me with
those eyes and who even goes so far as to say ‘please’ in her emails, asking me one more
time to come home.
I can’t help myself. So I do. One more time, I do.
But every comment is
an insult to my intelligence. Every move is a sign of the fact that
he has no respect for the life I live now.
I can’t breathe, I want him to love me so badly,
I want to make this connection that takes ‘need to be here’ into
‘want to’. But I
can’t. I can’t seem to find it, so I stalk up to my room, like I did when I was
twelve and
abandon this conversation I’ve been trying to start for years. I cry in the
cold, because
the heat’s never on. I try to sleep because there’s nothing left to do that doesn’t make me
think one more time on why he won’t stop trying to
hurt me.
We paused once and almost asked each other why we kept hurting each other again and
again. But that was a long time ago, and he turned away, and I’ve gone too far to find it
now.
I try to tell my mother to make him see, but I know now he treats her the same way he
treats me. Only she can’t find the nerve to get away. I try to tell her to make him learn his
respect, because soon, if he won’t, I’ll need to stop trying. I’m too tired to keep doing
this year after year.
I won’t be home for
Christmas that year. It’s sad, but it’s true. And I will mark that year
as
the greatest defeat of my life, when at last I give up on this battle and let him win his
loneliness. When I let me lose, and at last can gain me my
fatherlessness.